The Rules For Being Amazing, by Robin Sharma

Risk more than is required. Learn more than is normal. Be strong. Show courage. Breathe. Excel. Love. Lead. Speak your truth. Live your values. Laugh. Cry. Innovate. Simplify. Adore mastery. Release mediocrity. Aim for genius. Stay humble. Be kinder than expected. Deliver more than is needed. Exude passion. Shatter your limits. Transcend your fears. Inspire others by your bigness. Dream big but start small. Act now. Don’t stop. Change the world.

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Something inside of me has completely snapped and it’s about bloody time. For practically my whole life I’ve been the doormat, I have an easy-going nature and people mistake that for stupidity a lot of the time. They think that because I wont mind if you bail on me at the last minute because you cant be bothered to get dressed that I wont care if you screw me over and treat me like crap. And what I’ve come to realise is that while being gentle and caring and easy-going are personality traits to treasure you have to grow a thick skin if you want to live the sort of life I’m striving for. Somewhere along the way I must have decided I’m worth something because I refuse to let people treat me like I’m not important.

I wouldn’t describe myself as someone who cares massively about what people think about me. I am a girl so there are plenty of times that I feel self-conscious, but I’ve never been afraid of making my hair bigger than a birds nest, or of wearing a crazy outfit that probably doesn’t match. Nor am I afraid to whack my hand in the air and tell people my opinion. But often the people closest to you are the ones who can put walls and barriers in your way, and most of the time they don’t realise they’re doing it. So this is my way of saying ‘get the fuck out of my way or I’ll trample on you.’

If I want to dye all my hair blue, or shave it all off, or tan myself orange, or walk around with face paint on, or have my body covered in skull tattoos, then I will. It’s my life and it’s my choice.

You’re free and you’re you, and no one, not your parents, or me or anyone can tell you what you can and can’t do. You’re one of a kind, there will never ever be another human being exactly the same as you and you should celebrate that. You have to keep pushing forwards because you’re an individual with your own ideas and opinions that are just as valid as anyone else’s. You’ve just got to keep going and not take any crap even when it’s easier to keep quiet.  And when people ask why you’re being defensive all of a sudden you explain kindly that you aren’t being defensive you’re simply not taking any of their shit, and that they don’t get to speak to you that way because you haven’t given them the right to, (even if you do feel like a psycho while telling them this).

What I’ve realised is that even people who are in positions of authority over you, your boss, your parents, a person who intimidates you, are all just human beings. And I think once you’ve realised that you’re truly free because no one will hold you back anymore, you empower yourself. If you act pathetic people will treat you accordingly, you have to go out there, hold your head high and show the world that you believe in yourself, that you have faith and that you are not to be messed around with. I’m tough and I’m strong and even though sometimes I’m panicky and scared, I’ll be buggered if I'll let it stop me from doing exactly what I want to do. Giving up is the saddest thing because even if it seems as if you’re fighting forever one day you’ll have won and it will be so worth it. Be the god of your world because you have the power to choose to do this or that, and no one else on this earth can make those choices for you. I believe we all have a purpose and a destiny, but we also have free will, and it’s our right to choose our lives, to fight for our paths and freedom and to make our lives what they are.

Its true that one day you feel like you could spit fire, and the next you question your very existence, but you have to just believe in yourself, have faith and keep fighting for what you want to do, because what I’m starting to realise is no one else will do it for you. Never ever let someone make you feel embarrassed or small for having a point to make, or for standing up for yourself, never let anyone make you feel as if you’re overreacting. There’s no such thing, if you feel a certain way it’s a feeling, not an overreaction and it should be voiced. You’re not being over-defensive; you’re just not taking any shit. We can make it, we just have to keep pushing forwards, and prove to ourselves that we are important, we are people with feelings that are just as valid as anyone else’s and one day we’ll say ‘well shit, we made it’ and every ounce of self-doubt and weakness will have been worth it.

Find the anchor that gives you faith and enables you to believe in yourself and never let it go. Never stop fighting for what you want and need and be kind in the process.

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